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Feeling stuck?

If you and your partner have found yourselves at a crossroads regarding your relationship, Discernment Counseling might be the right step to take.  Such a major decision should be worked through carefully, and inviting the guidance of a professional can help provide clarity and confidence in your decision.


Traditional couple counseling is effective if and when both parties are committed to making the relationship work.  But what if this isn’t the case?  If one partner lacks the commitment to do the work necessary to rebuild the relationship, then the traditional approach may not be as effective.  What if both parties are unsure of whether the relationship is still salvageable?  Discernment Counseling offers those who feel stuck or unsure about what’s next a way forward.  It isn't treatment, it's a structured assessment process that helps couples make this important decision.  For more information on Discernment Counseling, click here.

  • Session 1

    • Explore as a couple

    • "How did we get here?"

  • Session 2-5

    • Discernment Process

    • Assessment

    • Exploration

  • GOAL:  Make a DECISION (take ACTION) about the future with confidence and clarity

    • Option 1 ~ Status Quo​

      • Possible future crisis​

      • Other ways to improve?

    • Option 2 ~ Divorce​

      • End marriage​

      • Prioritize kids/coparenting

      • Financial Matters

      • Open to new relationships

      • Peaceful dissolution

    • Option 3 ~ Couple Therapy​

      • 6 months with clear roadmap

      • Best effort from both parties

      • Learn new skills/tools

      • Redefine boundaries

      • Restore trust


**If you are in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline at 1.800.273.8255 or text "Home" to 741741. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. If you need local crisis intervention/support in the Bay Area, check out Bay Area Suicide Crisis & Intervention Alliance (BASCIA) online. I do not offer crisis counseling or emergency services. 


Jennifer Haya is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT 127004) and a Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC 9907) at Couples Recovery Center and is supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, a Couples Counselor, and is an employee of Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., which is a Professional Corporation. Couples Recovery Center provides specialized couples counseling and includes the following professionals:



The recommendations on this website do not constitute professional advice, substitute for professional treatment, or establish a therapeutic relationship.

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